the news this past week wore me down. no lemme correct that. the reactions 2 the news wore me down. i have this little guilty pleasure of reading comments to news stories. sometimes, i scroll down and read the comments b4 i actually read the news. can’t help it. it’s where i get my drama fix.

anyway, last week Palin said something controversial (what else is new) and it sparked a whole man vs. woman debate. being a womanis one label that i cannot shake and it’s one that carries a lot of responsibilities, stereotypes, privileges and hinerances. then there was our president. it’s almost hilarious that when Obama was elected folks started throwing around the term “post-racial”. seriously? his win actually brough out more racism. every time he’s in the news, the worst of the worst racists come out 2 hate him. i feel more threatened now then i’ve ever felt in my life. now mind you, my age puts me after the atroscities of slavery, jim crow, segregation and the like. we’re moving away from the quiet covert racism to the very upfront, i hate ni&&ers kind. now mind u, i don’t hate whites (or any other group). but that doesn’t mean, i don’t stay on my toes when i’m around them. being on the alert all the damn time is exhausting.

now the courts are making headway on the gays getting married thing (yay). but now here comes the Bible toting hypocrites. i know my Bible is wrong cuz it’s not the “hate only gays” kind. stories about gays getting married always gets thousands of comments. u know, outside of my family, i rarely associate or socialize with str8? i don’t have a problem with them, i just… *sigh* staying on my toes again ya know. a lot of folks r cool but a lot of folks are not. a lot. i just need to relax.

small little nitpicky labels: went 2 the beach last week. work a bikini. yeah, it was little bit too tiny. but i’m small, i could get away with it. that is until a “thick” gyrl comes along and decides to hate. been struggling with body image my whole life. it is what it is. skinny. that’s another one my labels. i actually allowed a couple of young gyrls make me feel self concious. damn shame. almost forty and i let someone make me feel bad about my body? really? it was a moment. i got over it. just not as quickly as i’d liked. some chick from american idol was in the news. got her teeth fixed. is it news? nope. did it matter? not at all. not to me or anyone else. instead the commentary centered around her locs. i love locs. but soooooooooo many people hate them. i’m a dread head. another one of my labels. not a burden. just another label.

everyday was another label placed on me like bricks in a knapsack. black… female… gay…then i look at my gyrl and realize she has one more brick 2 carry. black… female… gay… butch…

i think about the stares. the rude remarks. the fights we’ve had. over the role of “daddy”. tryin 2 find your place in a society that doesn’t want 2 make room for u has got 2 b taxing. i’m surprised more studs aren’t permanently angry. pissed that they are treated like everyone’s enemy. the label of stud does carry a stigma. it carries the pressures of what u’r supposed 2 b. come on y’all, everyone has heard someone talk about what a stud is supposed 2 wear. how she’s supposed 2 walk and talk. what her role is in a relationship. all that despite the fact that in general (homohpobic) society a stud is not even supposed to exist. it’s like a damned if u do, damned if u don’t type of thing. if u gon b a stud u gotta be this way. and it’s not just one way. it’s a million ways. folks got so many different versions of what a stud is, it’s not even funny. i love studs. (hence the calendar) but sometimes, i do think the whole concept is ridiculous. it’s unecessarily complicated. and too much trouble. so much work. i watch studs and get tired. (i’m sure they watch femmes and get tired too. wearing stiletos ain’t no joke. LOL) but seriously. i admire studs. i sympathize with them and sometimes feel bad for them. femmes don’t get half the shit that studs do. all the more reason why they need our love and support. by ‘our’ i mean the entire community. not just femmes.

yeah, i said labels are necessary. but i wish the world could focus on just one. one that we all share. one that binds us. one that makes all those other labels stick. one that encompasses everything. the good and the bad. a label without stereotypes and stigmas. one that has no pros or cons. it just is.

at the end of each day. and at the beginning of every tomorrow, i reject most of the labels and sit in a quiet place and just allow myself to hold on to that one label. and that’s the label of… human.

i must’ve heard the question dozens of times this weekend. my answer varied from “cool” to “awkward” to a simple shrug of the shoulders. i dunno. while the event was played out in front of everyone, i felt like my feelings about it was a bit personal. that’s the kinda chick i am. yeah, i know that’s crazy cuz this was a very public situation. how can one b private? iono but i did.

fate allowed that 2 happen 4 me at the movie premier. much to my joy and chagrin, my mother and my aunt came. they couldn’t stay thru the entire showing so they sat in the back as to not disturb anyone on their way out. they asked me to sit with them. of course i wasn’t gonna say no to my mom. they sat waaaaaaaaay in the back by the door. so did i. thinking that i would sneak up 2 sit next 2 my gyrl after they left, i learned quickly that that would b an impossible task. the theater got waaaay 2 dark and waaay 2 crowded. so i sighed and relaxed back in the last row. a dear friend scooted up beside me and kept me company. thank Goddess he did.

i watch in awe as i saw my D, on the big screen. her head is pretty big in real life but this was ridiculous. seeing it 10 feet tall was surreal. seeing her laugh, smirk and flirt was something altogether different. but i was cool. for real. serious. i really was. then a kiss. then a touch. ok. i found my hand moving up to cover my face. really? really. i thought i was cooler than that. my friend held my hand. i squeezed back hard and never let it go.

during filiming, D told me about everything, every step of the way. i had my own copy of the script. i knew what was gon happen. but knowing and seeing are 2 different things. it was time 4 THE sex scene. i knew that everyone would b watching my reaction. i’m so glad i wasn’t up front amongst the rest. i really didn’t need the pressure. i liked my little private viewing from the back. that way i could relax and actually process things on my own terms. and it was alright. a little long but alright. afterwards i was so proud of my gyrl, i had tears in my eyes. held them back of course. i didn’t want 2 b dramatic and emotional in public. just not how i do.

the evening went by in a blur and so did D. she was buzzing everywhere. everyone wanted a piece of her. i wasn’t surprised. back at the hotel, we were so exhausted, the plush pillows and mattress easily defeated any thoughts we had of going 2 an after party.

the next day was more activities. and that’s when the question was asked. again and again and again and again. yeah, a couple of people mentioned the sex scene the nite of the premier. but only in passing. there was no way 2 have an in depth conversation in all that hullabaloo.

but in the quiet of the park, it was easy 4 people to approach with a “… oooooh gyrl! what about yo’ woman and that chick in the movie?!” some people reassured me as if i had no concept of what acting was. other leaned in close and waited patiently 4 me to vent or something. for real? seriously? was i supposed to be mad? this movie was presented. months and months ago. i saw the script b4 they started shooting. i met the actresses. i visited the set. how the hell was i gon turn around and act all brand new at the end and get mad? how silly would that b?

but honestly, it would b a human reaction. silly, but human. the heart feels what it feels and i felt proud. not jealous or threatened. she’s mine. has been for almost 7 years. if she ain’t mine by now, she ain’t never gon b. not that any of this was every a threat 2 the relationship. but one gyrl told me in the park that she doesn’t believe 2 many womyn woulda been cool with their mates doing such a graphic sex scene. *shrug* it comes with the territory. don’t date an actress if u can’t handle it. i can not only handle it, i loved it.

Hello Hard Candy fans as you know this month is GAY Pride and everything is coming up rainbows for the next few weeks. There is so much that is going on for both Hard Candy and our models. This month we are so blessed and pleased to announce that Danielle our inspiration behind the creation of Hard Candy is starring in her very first movie called Genderblind, and I had the pleasure of speaking with her, her co-star Robyn Daniels as well as the producer, director and film writer Ms. Lanita Joseph. They gave me some Hard Candy exclusives, but of course I could not keep them for myself so I decided to share them with you.. Only because I love you.. muah!

Robyn Daniels, stars as Sincere in the movie Genderblind

HCC: Tell us a little bit about your character in Genderblind?Robyn: My character is the dancer Sincere. She is a character who is very strong in her beliefs of her religion. She was raised in the church and has a very myopic view of the world for a majority of her life. It’s when she meets Grace that she gradually begins to understand that the world is not just black and white that there are several gray areas as well and that it is okay that the world is the way it is and that she is a part of it.

HCC: What sparked your interest in auditioning for a part in the movie?Robyn: Actually when I saw the ad, I was intrigued by the fact that it was a feature length movie in Chicago. Mostly I get a lot of castings for shorts or just pieces being filmed in Chicago. Full length films are few and far between, and then when I learned more about the content- there was just no way that I couldn’t audition. I mean, how many artists have felt like they have almost had to sell their soul for their art? How many people have never fallen in love and been confused by it? Who can’t relate to this film?

HCC: Are there any similarities in the character you play in the movie with your own personality?Robyn: There are a few similarities, we are both devout Christians and at one point of my life I held very stringent beliefs about love and sexuality. However, like Sincere, my own life experiences helped to open my eyes.

HCC: So now that movie is completed, what other projects can we expect from you?Robyn: Well, right now I am working on finishing a television pilot that’s also shot locally called Engaged.. I’ll also be doing Writer’s Block in LA and Mental Escape in Paris. Both are slated to be worked on throughout late summer and into Fall.

HCC: Do you have any affiliation to the gay community other than doing a movie about a gay related issue? Robyn: I can’t say that I do, other than just support for equal rights etc. and fair treatment. Basic civil human liberties things

HCC: Are you a Hard Candy Calendar fan? Robyn: I wasn’t but I certainly will be now.

HCC: I know that were some scenes in the movie that both you and Danielle had to be intimate how comfortable were you in those scenes? Robyn: I was actually okay. The thing about those scenes and really any type of love, intimate, intense scene is that it’s not you who’s there per se; it’s the character. It’s the character’s journey that’s being portrayed. But on a total personal level I was fine, had fun, we joked around a lot too. Kind of hard to keep a straight face working with Danielle, she kept making me laugh.

HCC: Yes I agree with you Robyn, Danielle will keep you in stitches. So with that being said we are now going to speak to the woman of the hour Ms. Lanita Joseph.. Lanita how are you today…Girl you are doing some great things in the community I know that Genderblind was a project of blood sweat tears and passion. Can you tell us a little bit about the concept of Genderblind?Lanita: Genderblind is the term for an individual who is attracted to a spirit as opposed to the body. So it is less about sexual attraction and more about energy attraction.

HCC: What inspired the storyline behind the movie? Lanita: My crazy imagination and some of the what if’s in my life.

HCC: How long did it take you to finish the film?Lanita: It was originally a book written three years ago. When I decided to turn it into a screenplay it took me about one year to complete.

HCC: So now that the movie is completed are there any other projects in the works for Ms. Lanita Joseph?Lanita: Soooo many projects. First I have several dance shows and plays that have been on hold because of the movie. I am going away to graduate school, while still continuing my dance company here in Chicago, and I will be completing the book Genderblind.

HCC: Is there any talk about Genderblind being available on DVD? Lanita: It won’t be on DVD for a while, largely because I will be working thru film festivals.

HCC: I noticed that some of your cast features many HardCandy Calendar models. How did you go about your selection in cast and characters for the movie?Lanita: It was very hard to find someone (to play the lead). I searched and searched and actually a friend of mine recommended Danielle Jones from Hard Candy. She auditioned and I knew she was the one. I was just blessed to have the perfect Grace for my movie. The other main character was really hard to find, I actually found her on craigslist two weeks before shooting. She totally pulled it off.

HCC: Will you buy the latest Hard Candy Calendar? Lanita: I will definitely be buying, 2011”s “The Rise Of The Stud” That is hott!!

HCC: If there was a mark that you could leave in the lesbian & gay community what would that mark be?Lanita: It would be to create a new term for a labeless class of people that goes beyond, gay straight or bi… it’s genderblind!

HCC: Well , well there you have it HardCandy fans.. I don’t know about you but I am looking forward to all the movie. Come back tomorrow where you’ll read part two of the interview with Hard Candy’s own, Danielle Jones.

GENDERBLIND: starring Robyn Daniels and Danielle Jones, written and directed by Lanita Joseph will premier tomorrow at the Portage Theater 4050 N. Milwaukee Ave., Chicago, IL, 60641 (773) 736-4050
For more information: visit www.genderblindmovie.webs.com

Brandee Young is a recurrent Hard Candy Calendar model and correspondent. For more information write: brandeeyoung@hardcandycalendar.com or call 773.678.5464

PORTLAND, Maine (AP) ― About two dozen women drew a crowd of onlookers when they shed their shirts and marched downtown in Maine’s largest city to promote what they call equal-opportunity public toplessness.

It’s not illegal for a woman to be topless in public in Maine, and police said there were no incidents or arrests.

ok, as lesbian of african american decent, we are no strangers in the quest 4 equality. but do we want 2 b equal in every single way? honestly, i don’t want 2 b topless. if other womyn did, i wouldn’t protest it, or b angry about it but i don’t think i’d b all that cool about it either. then again, i’m also a member of this society and i’m sure that some of it’s rules have seeped n2 my psyche just like everyone else.

this week, i saw Erykah Badu’s latest video and it made folks mad. i thought it was great. didn’t have a problem with it. the artist in my loves it! nudity for art is all good with me. nudity in and of itself isn’t bad. it’s natural. it’s the common denominator between all of us. yet, i’m still caught up in the “ultra femme” thought patterns in thinking that my breasts are for function (feeding babies) but also sexual (low cut blouses turn my gyrl on). so walkin around with them all out for no reason just feels…. odd. that’s just me. is it different 4 studs? Studs don’t really use their breasts in the same fashion as femme womyn (stereotypically speaking, of course). would a stud walk around topless, like a man if she could? i wonder…

“Drag was originally a word used to describe the actual clothing actors wore on stage when they performed as women. As you no doubt learned by watching Shakespeare in Love, female roles used to be played not by actual females, but delicate young male actors. Even so, the term doesn’t actually date back to Shakespeare’s time. Instead, it came into popular usage during the age of British vaudeville shows when the cross-dressing was used for comic effect. The men would dress in drag and the women wore breeches as a theatrical method of satirizing the qualities unique to the opposite sex. It would not be until almost the middle of the 20th century that drag was specifically used as a term to describe female impersonators and this was also the era in which drag began to become more closely associated with homosexuality.”

so Bill S. didn’t come up with it. well at least according to this one unchecked source i found on the internet. another source of knowledge that we all must submit too;).

well at least that explanation helps me out a little bit cuz i thought the drag thing only referred to me, but of course there are drag kings as well as queens. soooo, what’s the difference between a drag king and a stud? while i know that being in drag is the full ASSumption of being a man and being a stud is still a woman who carries a masculine appearance. wow, that last sentence so over simplified my dominant sisters, it almost seems offensive. but y’all know i love ya. hell, i’m the unofficial #1 stud lover, so i’m really not tryin 2 b that way. sometimes, i don’t have the vocabulary 2 properly express my thoughts. so bear with me on this one.

despite that very simple distinction between the two, there is a whole spectrum of womyn that fall in between the drag king and the basic tomboy sporting baggy pants. there are womyn who relate more to male energy. so much so that they emote it. so wearing the clothes aren’t a conscious effort to become manly but more like a result of already being manly. chicken or the egg maybe? does it make a difference? i think it does.

in the end Mulan gets her man. she was just in drag. and how often (if at all, are str8 womyn drag kings?) mulan, didn’t relate 2 the boys at all. barely understood them. whereas i know studs that could walk amongst bio dudes and not miss a beat. have great conversations about sports, drink a beer and genuinely complain about womyn. fascinating. ever heard a stud talk about womyn as if they weren’t one? i hear it all the time. so it’s not drag for them. but then there are other studs who acknowledge their womanhood, only deal with womyn, and only seem 2 relate 2 womyn. r they in drag? do the clothes match what’s inside?

when it is just an outfit and when it is a manifestation of the inner person?

p.s. i like the end of the movie in which this male dominated society that treats womyn like second class citizens all bowed down to her for her heroic efforts. even the emperor bowed to Mulan.

By TIMBERLY ROSS, Associated Press Writer Timberly Ross, Associated Press Writer – Sat Mar 13, 6:32 pm ET
Jene Newsome played by the rules as an Air Force sergeant: She never told anyone in the military she was a lesbian. The 28-year-old’s honorable discharge under the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy came only after police officers in Rapid City, S.D., saw an Iowa marriage certificate in her home and told the nearby Ellsworth Air Force Base.

Newsome and the American Civil Liberties Union filed a complaint against the western South Dakota police department, claiming the officers violated her privacy when they informed the military about her sexual orientation. The case also highlights concerns over the ability of third parties to “out” service members, especially as the Pentagon has started reviewing the 1993 “don’t ask, don’t tell” law.

“I played by ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’” Newsome told The Associated Press by telephone.

“I just don’t agree with what the Rapid City police department did. … They violated a lot of internal policies on their end, and I feel like my privacy was violated.”

The “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy has come under renewed debate after Defense Secretary Robert Gates called for a sweeping internal study on the law earlier this year.

As the review is under way, officials were also expected to suggest ways to relax enforcement that may include minimizing cases of third-party outings. In particular, Gates has suggested that the military might not have to expel someone whose sexual orientation was revealed by a third party out of vindictiveness or suspect motives.

The Rapid City Police Department says Newsome, an aircraft armament system craftsman who spent nine years in the Air Force, was not cooperative when they showed up at her home in November with an arrest warrant for her partner, who was wanted on theft charges in Fairbanks, Alaska.

Newsome was at work at the base at the time and refused to immediately come home and assist the officers in finding her partner, whom she married in Iowa — where gay marriage is legal — in October.

Police officers, who said they spotted the marriage license on the kitchen table through a window of Newsome’s home, alerted the base, police Chief Steve Allender said in a statement sent to the AP. The license was relevant to the investigation because it showed both the relationship and residency of the two women, he said.

“It’s an emotional issue and it’s unfortunate that Newsome lost her job, but I disagree with the notion that our department might be expected to ignore the license, or not document the license, or withhold it from the Air Force once we did know about it,” Allender said Saturday. “It was a part of the case, part of the report and the Air Force was privileged to the information.”

He said his department does not seek to expose gay military personnel or investigate the sexuality of Rapid City residents.

Allender said the department was finishing its internal investigation and has determined the officers acted appropriately. They have not been placed on leave during the investigation.

Newsome’s partner is currently out on bail on one felony and three misdemeanor counts of theft stemming from an incident last year, court officials in Fairbanks said. More information was not immediately available, and Newsome said she didn’t know the status of the case and didn’t provide more details about it.

In the complaint filed last month with the department, ACLU South Dakota said police had no legal reason to tell the military Newsome was a lesbian and that officers knew if they did, it would jeopardize her military career.

Newsome, who was discharged in January, said she didn’t know where the marriage license was in her home when police came to her house on Nov. 20 and claims the officers were retaliating because she wouldn’t help with her partner’s arrest.

“This information was intentionally turned over because of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ and to out Jene so that she would lose her military status,” said Robert Doody, executive director of ACLU South Dakota. The ACLU is focusing its complaint on the police department, not the military, and Newsome said she and her attorney have not yet decided on whether to file a lawsuit.

“The ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ piece is important and critical to this, but also it’s a police misconduct case,” Doody said.

A U.S. Air Force spokesman, Senior Airman Adam Grant, said Ellsworth follows all laws set out by Congress and the Defense Department, and he would not comment specifically on Newsome’s discharge, citing privacy policy.

More than 13,500 service members have been discharged under the law since 1994, according to the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, which is lobbying for its repeal. Kevin Nix, communications director of the Washington, D.C.-based nonprofit, couldn’t speak about Newsome’s case, but said when “someone is outed by a third party, which it sounds like this was, or by a police officer, then, yeah … I’m not surprised the person was discharged.”

Though rare, third-party outing can be especially damaging to service members who wanted to keep their sexual orientation hidden, experts say.

Even though 80 percent of “don’t ask, don’t tell” discharges come from gay and lesbian service members who out themselves, third-party outings are “some of the most heinous instances of ‘don’t, ask, don’t tell,’” said Nathaniel Frank, a research fellow with the Palm Center think tank at the University of California, Santa Barbara and a New York University professor.

Newsome, who is originally from Harrisburg, Pa., is currently on the road, driving to Alaska. She said she’d been looking forward to the time when the military would alter its policies regarding gays and lesbians. But that change didn’t come in time to save her career.

“I felt like it was getting close,” she said. “I was really hopeful.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDQdFIrrM7Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JlGyzfUWKg0

Meanwhile, in another part of our country:
JACKSON, Miss. – A northern Mississippi school district will not be hosting a high school prom this spring after a lesbian student sought to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.

so bascially, they’ll ruin it for everyone just cuz they don’t like what one gyrl is doing. seriously? the hate runs that deep. they don’t stop marriage cuz some(most) couples get divorced. but they’ll shut down a prom cuz they don’t want one gay couple 2 b there. un-freakin-believeable!

so what’s the big deal u say? absolutely nothing. and everything. it was there as it should b. no big deal. gay a couple pictured right next to a str8 couple and an interracial couple equally. shiny, happy smiling faces. not controversial. not sensationalized or stereotyped. not sexualized or pornographic. just two womyn in love. yay! that’s all i ever wanted. just to be.

it was no big deal at all. there was no controversy. well, i’m speaking 2 soon. the issue just came out. who knows. essence might get letters. but i’m hopeful that they won’t. and as small as it is, i noticed and it mattered. it’s a small step. but it’s a step indeed.

now i don’t read Ebony and Essence cover 2 cover each and every month. so i can’t say with absolute authority that this isn’t a regular occurence. it’s just the one that i happened 2 catch. and i’m happier for it.

prior 2 seeing it, i had been hearing and participating in a lot of conversations with people condemning the movie for its subject matter. some didn’t want to put that image of black folks out there. a sentiment that makes very little sense to me. other just don’t like 2 face such a serious topic. some are avoiding the movie due to personal emotional constraints. at some point, the band aid has to come off. it’s not gonna feel good and it’s not gonna be pretty underneath. but it has to come off. and as Mo’nique said in her acceptance speech: “it’s now time to tell. and it’s okay.”

i remember being on a message board once and the topic of coming out stories was presented. someone starts a story about being 13 or 14 and having sex with a 27 year old woman. another story gets posted about someone being 15 and having a sexual encounter with a woman in her 30s. and the stories continued on and on. i was shocked and frozen. these were not coming out stories. these were stories of molestation. a few other posters were as appalled as i was and stated as such. many of these womyn who recounted these tales responded with anger and insult. they seriously didn’t feel that they were taken advantage of. i really am saddened 2 realize that u actually have 2 tell someone that they were molested. they not only didn’t know. but thought these situations were ok. they retold the tales with pleasant reverie. almost boastfully. i worried. if they thought that it was ok, then who’s 2 say that they won’t in turn at the age of 36 or 40 go by some high school and find themselves a girlfriend in hopes of creating a “coming out story” for someone else. they didn’t come out. their sexuality wasn’t realized at that moment some unscrupulous adult touched them in their private place. they don’t know that. and i know that ignorance is bliss sometimes. but not in this instance. not when there’s a strong possibility that the cycle will be repeated. it is not ok for grown folks to touch children! period. only cuz it didn’t hurt. or only cuz it was woman on woman. or only cuz someone is a teenager who thinks they’re grown doesn’t make any of those stories ok. i hate 2 b the bearer of bad news. folks always kill the messenger. that’s why Precious got so much shit. why so many people wanted to avoid the movie like the plague.

i’m glad Mo’nique got that award. i’m glad 4 as much attention as possible 2 be given to a movie like this. i hope all the Preciouses of the world see this and know that it’s not cool. break the cycle. don’t do 2 others what has been done 2 u. it’s painful to watch. and i’m sure 4 some, it’s even more painful to admit. but time heals all wounds. the wounds won’t heal properly underneath that dirty band aid. brace yourself. rip it off and get better. now’s the time to tell and it’s okay.

now on 2 the year at hand. i’m preparing for the last celebration of the holiday season. my daughter’s birthday. and while standing in the checkout line i see the latest edition of the Ebony magazine. and who’s on the cover? ms. Wanda Sykes. whuuuu? u mean to tell me an out, black, lesbian can grace the cover of a non-gay magazine? clutch the pearls. the sky didn’t fall. the black community didn’t crumble. all lil black kids aren’t turning up gay suddenly and black churches aren’t empty.

sorry for the drama. but the way folks would tell it, black gays are in the closet cuz blacks are the most homophobic group there is. now, let’s keep it real. there is a lot of homophobia in our community but from the looks of it a black woman comin out of the closet isn’t an automatic death sentence. according to my tally, she’s the only openly gay celeb we got going 4 us. right? please correct me if i’m wrong. so far her career is doing well. and she appears 2 b in good health and happy. which gives me hope that more celebs and public figures of african decent can follow suit without fear of reprocussion. black gays are in serious need or more representation in the media. in society in general.

i’m not tryin 2 hear any excuses for 2010. there is no reason 2 b in the closet. it can be done. and it should be done. thank u Wanda for opening that door. now who’s next 2 follow?